Amman, Aug. 9 (Petra) — Parents of General Secondary Education
Certificate (Tawjihi) students will receive their children’s results
on Monday, marking the end of 12 years of school education and the
beginning of a new phase of learning and knowledge, entry into the
labor market, or, for some, another attempt at the exam.

However, experts say the results should be received and discussed
within a sound educational framework, away from comparisons with
others, stressing that a result is not the end of the road and that
young people have multiple options ahead of them, while their
psychological well-being and that of their families should remain a
priority.

Family counseling and educational psychology specialists told the
Jordan News Agency (Petra) that Jordanian families awaiting Tawjihi
results can follow more than 17 steps to deal with their children’s
results, whether satisfactory or otherwise, in ways that protect
their psychological well-being and support their future.

They said the first step is for parents to control their reactions
when the results are announced and view them as the beginning of a
new phase rather than the end of the road. Other steps include
dialogue and acceptance, avoiding comparisons with others,
appreciating children’s efforts regardless of their results, planning
the next step, choosing positive words, and refraining from passing
judgment on them.

They stressed that awareness and calm when dealing with the results,
and helping children at this moment to understand themselves and
their abilities, are among the most important steps parents should
take. They also called for strengthening the concept of
responsibility and helping children turn their results into
self-awareness, self-awareness into responsibility, and
responsibility into decisions, making the Tawjihi result a starting
point for a more mature future while strengthening family
relationships based on support and trust.

Educational psychology professor and learning and development
specialist Rawda Al-Ramahi told Petra that, with the announcement of
the Tawjihi results, parents and children experience a period of
anticipation as they await the outcome of years of effort and
upbringing, a moment shared by millions of students and their
families around the world at the end of similar educational stages.

Families should understand that a child’s Tawjihi result is not
merely a set of numbers but also a confrontation with expectations
and a test of the ability to accept reality as it is, she said.

“The results are not a judgment on children, nor a reflection of
their future success or failure,” Al-Ramahi said, adding that they
should instead be viewed as an important educational message that
needs to be read calmly and addressed with full awareness.

She pointed out that parents’ reactions at this moment, from an
educational and psychological perspective, remain deeply etched in
children’s memories of themselves for a long time and may never
disappear.

If a result is met with an aggressive reaction, such as anger or
comparisons with others, it can leave a negative impact, she said,
whereas responding with dialogue and acceptance can turn the
experience into an opportunity for learning and success.

“Results are important, but what is more important is that children
emerge from this stage able to understand themselves, take
responsibility for their choices and build their next steps,”
Al-Ramahi said.

Regardless of whether the result is successful or otherwise, parents
should understand that the issue is not limited to the current result
but involves helping children turn their results into self-awareness,
self-awareness into responsibility, and responsibility into decisions
that positively affect their future, she said.

True success, she added, does not lie in children achieving what
their parents expected of them, but in building a strong relationship
with them and helping them turn their current results into a more
mature step towards their future.

Family counseling professor Khalil Mahmoud Al-Zyoud told Petra that
it is natural for parents to feel dissatisfied with their children’s
results or, conversely, to experience joy and pride in their
achievements.

What matters, however, is that their reactions are balanced and
conscious and that the results are addressed within reasonable
educational boundaries, he said.

Many cases of setbacks and failure can turn into success, Al-Zyoud
said, making an appropriate response to the result an important step
in shaping the next stage of the lives of both children and their
families.

He said students at the end of secondary school are the product of
years of effort, whether their parents shared that effort or not, and
have the right to experience whatever emotions they feel after
receiving their results.

Controlling emotions and reactions requires training and important
parenting skills, he added.

Al-Zyoud urged families and students not to immediately resort to
blame or make excuses about the exams or other factors but instead to
identify the real reasons behind the result and acknowledge the
effort made.

The next step depends on the result, whether that means continuing
towards university, entering the labor market, or considering
retaking the exam, he said, stressing that the result is not the end
and that there are other doors and paths that can ultimately lead to
the desired goal.

He also called for moderation in celebrations and warned against
actions that could threaten public safety. At the same time,
unsatisfactory results should be handled with moderation because
excessive reactions can increase psychological pressure on children
and families.

Some students, particularly those who are psychologically vulnerable,
may be harmed by their results if they are not dealt with in an
appropriate educational manner and kept within their natural
perspective, he said.

“The world today is looking for skills, while qualifications are
complementary to those skills,” Al-Zyoud said, urging parents to
focus on these aspects in the future, strengthen their children’s
capabilities, and help them develop skills that will benefit them in
the years ahead.

Zaid Hani Al-Momani, a digital content specialist at Akeed, the
Jordan Media Credibility Monitor affiliated with the Jordan Media
Institute, told Petra that families awaiting Tawjihi results should
avoid placing their children in comparisons through social media
platforms, noting that much of the content published there may be
misleading or exaggerated.

Families should also recognize that psychological harm can result
from posts containing ridicule or bullying on social media, he said,
stressing that awareness should be the basis for dealing with such
“disturbing” digital content, which can negatively affect children
regardless of their results.

Al-Momani warned families against reposting or sharing content
published on social media because of the psychological harm it could
cause their children.

Many such posts and videos remain in circulation for long periods, he
said, adding that they can become embedded in memory and continue to
affect children’s psychological well-being at later stages of their
lives.

//Petra// AF